Berttheduck

Either a whole load of books, fiction, tabletop RPG sci-fi. I would also need to buy more bookshelves to put these on.

A decent upgrade to my computer, maybe a new graphics card.

A sword or two, some better protective kit for sparring.

34 male. Grew up with 3 siblings. Always wanted kids when I was younger. As I got older, met my wife and started living together we had lots of discussions about kids. She was never really interested in them and the whole pregnancy and giving birth thing terrified her.

On lots of reflection I realised that I was only interested in kids because of family and societal pressure, I think the world is over populated and generally heading downhill (fascism is massively on the rise globally, global warming, various wars) so decided that I didn’t want to bring a child into that.

There’s plenty of children in the foster system so if we change our minds later we can adopt and give a good home to a child that needs one.

No. Chavs were the school bullies for me growing up so I get a pretty strong visceral ewe from that style choice.

https://yu-scene.net/register

Link to the first post. I’m using boost via my phone without a VPN.

The ml link has posts, most recent was a week ago.

My Dad’s gone totally off the rails conspiracy theory nutty.

Fake moon landings, fluoride in the water is mind control, vaccines cause autism and maybe microchips and mind control again, foreign people are simultaneously lazy stealing benefits and stealing all the jobs, my god the racism. He fell into an echo chamber during COVID and hasn’t come out again.

The best one was when I was telling him as a healthcare professional on the front lines watching patients and colleagues die that COVID was serious and we should take any opportunity to avoid it and make it better, he told me it was just flu and all fake news.

Yeah I don’t talk to my parents much anymore.

Generally speaking a beer is 2 units, in the UK we recommend no more than 14 units in a week. If you want to stop talk to your doctor if you can or seek help. Stopping or reducing is much easier with help.

I might be reading this wrong but I’m not convinced it helps. My read of this is basically we get 1 free go at surviving and can send messages back to the start point for the second go to try and survive.

You could keep a running commentary of what you’re doing and where you’re going which would give you a little bit of notice of where and when you die but unless you can time loop and continually adjust the plan until you find something that works I don’t see how knowing 1 point of failure is enough to keep you alive.

Maybe someone smarter than me has a better idea though, or I’ve got the prompt wrong.

I work in a hospital so: scalpels, oxygen bottles/ wall supply explosions (hard to do without disabling the safety’s which I don’t know how to do), plenty of radiation sources in the building, loads of dangerous drugs from sedatives to painkillers to chemotherapy. If I’m lucky the monster might just die of MRSA or pneumonia before they get to me.

The state of your mental health is not necessarily your fault, but it is your responsibility. It’s ok to be having a bad day, week, or year but it’s not ok to hurt other people because of that.

But those days where you just relax and enjoy yourself count as good days so that’s ok too.

I love Iron Sky for this. Nazis on the moon. It’s satire all the way through. Such a goofy film but a lot of fun.

The Lord of the Rings. Aragorn is a perfect example of positive masculinity. Strong, brave, a good leader, emotionally available and connected to all his friends. Sam and Frodo are also very positive. Books and films are good. Cinema Therapy YouTube channel has a few episodes on the lord of the rings and they are all good watches. The Aragorn one covers positive masculinity I think.

Screen protector and case every time. The amount I’ve dropped and cracked the screen protector I feel like I would have knackered my screen at least a few times.

I tried a full coverage case recently which turned out to be pretty naff, worse than a regular screen protector, as stuff kept getting in the gaps for buttons and ending up under the screen.

Got this recently for my wife and I to play together and we are loving it so far. Just about reached bronze but don’t have a reliable supply of tin and winter is setting in so we are looking forward to getting our base set up and exploring some caves and ruins. We’ve got plenty of food, just hoping to squeeze another set of flax out of the farm before it’s too cold.

We watched Rubix Raptors YouTube series on it and loved the mix of chill crafting with more hardcore survival mechanics and a little dusting of cosmic horror.

It’s also pretty cheap for what you’re getting at about £20 it’s still in early access but is totally functional. We’ve played over 20 hours and haven’t hit a single bug which broke anything (just had our player models not display properly a couple of times). It’s also got really excellent built in modding support and what looks like a shed load of excellent mods.

I love my onyx. I use it for running RPGs, it’s great for taking notes and reading pdfs. Plus as it’s still running android you can run regular apps and browse. It’s a more focused experience than a general tablet but I’d say worth the money for my use case.

Well that’s nightmare fuel. Cudos to you for sorting it.

I’ve been journaling for a few years, starting with a Mind Journal in COVID which I found really useful. It’s built to ease you into it, get you reflecting more and introspecting as well as build the habit by making it as easy as possible to note something down each day.

I don’t use their products any more as they are quite expensive but I’d definitely recommend looking into them for trying to turn journaling into a habit. I do use the system though which is for each day you note your feelings, 3 (or more) achievements which can be anything from got up and showered to got a promotion, 3 (or more) things your grateful for and a happy hour where you have or plan to do something good for yourself.

This is a really useful prompt I find because those bits only take a few minutes and are a great way to track things over time. For example looking back at my COVID journal I can spot when I started getting burned out by having feeling: tired every day for several months. Noting down what you’re grateful for is also proven to help your mood, basically you start looking for positive things more and it’s a happy feedback loop.

Once I’ve done those bits I write stream of consciousness style, anything that’s playing on my mind, details of my day, stuff I hope might or might not happen, things that made me angry. For me it’s a really useful medicine practice which has definitely helped keep my mental health more stable over the years.

I like having a nice book and pen to write in too, I’m looking forward to finishing this journal so I can upgrade the book to something more fancy, maybe going leather bound next time.

My main advice would be to stick with it, habits take a good 3 months or so to bed in. The mind journal is good for this as it makes it really easy to journal something and gradually builds you up to more free form writing.

Good luck with your journalling I hope you find something which works for you. There are loads of methods out there from billet journaling which helps like a load of work to me but looks amazing like an art project, to the VOMIT method to just get your thoughts onto the page. Keep at it, try to find what works for you and build the habit, but don’t stress if you miss a day or two.

I got myself an Onyx boox e ink tablet for note taking. I don’t know if it’s what you’re looking for but it runs android and writes beautifully. Good battery life with the e ink. I love mine. It is more expensive than an equivalent standard tablet though and no back light on my model.

You can’t take the sky from me.

Excellent theme tune.