I’ve talked two people out of killing themselves.
What kind of situations led them to that place and what do you think the solutions were respectively?
In both cases the conversations took place via texts and calls. First occasion was a friend who was being harassed and had a bunch of other not-so-great things happening in their life and they turned to me, telling me that they had the means of killing themselves right next to them. They were being harassed over an aspect of their physical appearance. I told them not to do it, because with every interaction I had with them, they were always so nice, which left an impression on me, and the opinions of anyone so vile as to harass someone for their appearance is not worth even considering. I said more than that, the conversation went on for quite a long time and then it gradually turned into more casual talk and then “see you tomorrow” at school.
Second occasion was a friend who was going through problems with a relationship. I often ask my friends how they’re doing as kind of a habit, so this time they said they weren’t doing well, and told me about how they felt. They didn’t have a family who would listen so I was just there for them, listened to them and offered my input telling them things would get better, giving them some advice on what I’d say or do in that situation, and if they ever needed someone to talk or game with I’d always be there for them. They’re doing well now!
All these people posting inspirational stories and here I am with my first thought being “Finally saw the northern lights”. Got some decent pictures too.
That is on ny bucket list! They look surreal and I would love to experience seeig them.
That is a great achievement, and a good looking one as well! One i haven’t yet reached!
Honestly, just where I’m at in life. I’ve been pulling myself up by my bootstraps for all my life.
Grew up in bumfuck poorsville with abusive parents, joined the military, did some cool stuff, left and went to college, bought a house, graduated, sold the house, moved across country, got a job with my degree, and found a solid friendship group who encourage and care for me and vice versa.
This is all while suffering from an unseen disease that I was finally diagnosed with while in college and have been fighting against ever since.
I am proud of my achievements and I can really say to myself that I made it, despite everything, I made it.
Talked a friend out of suicide when COVID first hit and a bunch of people lost their jobs and homes. Now he’s got a pretty sweet work from home job with full benefits and his own place again. Am very happy for him.
Honestly, I’m struggling right now. Spent my 20’s waiting for something to happen that never did. Decided to change my life in my 30’s, and while I am a lot happier and more honest with myself in a lot of ways, I have also alienated people who were close to me by adopting new interests that they don’t share.
I try to meet new people, but it’s hard. The ones out socializing tend to be much younger or older than me, and the ones my age are having kids and stuff.
It has been really hard to find a balance between building the life I want to live, and not having changes isolate me to the point of loneliness.
If my wife goes, I may just have to cut everyone off and start fresh, but that terrifies me.
So, with all that, I guess I’m proud that I’m still trying and haven’t just given up completely and moved back in with mom like some of my contemporaries have.
Being the first female on my mom’s side to get a phd; being the first female to not be a teenage mother out of all my female relatives on my mom’s side; being the first to practice non violent upbringing in both our families (me and my SO).
Getting a full ride scholarship for all of my academic life: Bachelor’s, Master’s and PHD.
Getting a green thumb after thirty and having my flowers, shrubs, ferns, fruit trees and succulents thrive.
Getting on a horse after 30+ years of not doing it after a mare threw me off.
Quitting smoking cold turkey.
Working on my self trough therapeutic work to be my most authentic self.
Exercising regularly for some years now when I came from a family that did not emphasize the importance of body movement.
Graduating from college, and with a 4.0. I fucking HATE school, and i put that shit off until my 30s. None of it was easy and I studied my ass off to get that 4.0. I truly never thought I would ever graduate, I started and stopped so many times.
Graduated high school with a 5.0 to go to college to major in sysadmin
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I’ve bought a house, got married, published two books, do stand-up and host a small game show, survived two strokes, transitioned, and have a lot of friends who think I’m tolerable.
I paid off my college loans in full in 2019.
I deleted my reddit account.
I’m the first person in my family to get a University degree.
I’ve been sober for four years now.
Well you certainly accomplished a lot. I’m proud of you.
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First person on my dad’s side of the family to get a master’s degree. I loved school, but I’m also very happy to be done with it haha.
Edit: maybe the first to get a bachelor’s as well, but I’m not 100% sure about that. In any case, I’m proud to have gone through all that. Learned a lot.
My brain is not wired to be proud of things (chase the process!).
But i think achievements that I would put on my resume of life:
- Smoked for 15 years, quit, now 10+ years, nifty to think of. (i like number go up)
- Still alive even though i never thought that would happen a lot of times in my life, keep on keeping on
- I have released a bunch of cool music with other people and it has been a ‘getting out of hand’ hobby also for the past 15+ years
- Up until now haven’t screwed up the next generation bonus-mini-me, today was their first day in high school, so pretty proud of them (not my achievement though, i just supported along the way).
There’s things that I like about myself that I cannot put into words; it’s more a feeling.
Quitting the for-profit sector for political and moral reasons. Not easy and it’s still a struggle, but I keep going.
About 10 years ago I qualified to enter a state pinball tournament.
Of 16 qualifying entrants(or who could be bothered to enter), I placed 6th.
So I see it as, I was the 6th best pinball player in a state of 3million people, for a year. :-)
Woot woot! Congrats on that achievement, fellow pinball person! I scrolled this thread just to see if anyone mentioned ye olde silverball and I am not disappointed!
Own any pins? Top 3 favorite games?
One of the tables at this tournament was Walking Dead too!, unforgiving table angle.
I own no pins at home, except toy size Batman battery operated(Funrise with the ramps)
My top table is Banzai Run (2 games in 1 ;-), can 7x replay
I like Attack from Mars(and just a little less Revenge from Mars).
The original Indy:Pinball Adventure is an all time favourite and one of the first I played(as long as the flippers have enough kick to score jackpots and reach the Path of Adventure).
If I got a table, it would be Judge Dredd.
Grew up only playing 80s/90s video arcade machines. Appreciated pinball later, especially the analog aspect and finding out about basic moves like lane-transfers.
My nonpro-tip: Read the info-card for the word multiball! (c:
Good stuff! I enjoy Banzai Run as well, my buddy and I always get a few rounds on that one at our local pinball haunt. That vertical playfield is super cool!
Never got to clock much time on Indy or Dredd, love AFM though. That’s a game i would consider for my collection someday–that one or Medieval Madness, both are just awesome games. I collect mostly late-70’s/early 80’s solid state games, though i have a particular soft spot for the classic Bally’s and Sterns from that era…
I like that era too.
Aztec(1976) came up recently, and I was very much considering getting it, due to the in-depth detail in these Technology Connections videos. Not sure if the gameplay is any good though.
Medieval is fun, launching cows and all.
The original ST:TNG was great also.
