If he was afraid of her splashing him with boiling water, why advance on her? He should be moving back to avoid being close enough to be threatened. Even giving him the maximum benefit of the doubt his actions created the situation. It’s like if a cop steps out in front of your vehicle in traffic and then shoots you because you were about to run him over. Even if you believe she was threatening him, he still murdered her because he caused it to happen.

Personification of the meme…If you don’t treat them like an authority, they won’t treat you like a person.