Uum “My nose has seen better days”

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    9 months ago

    Nothing. I keep walking.

    I’ve matured enough to realize they were probably being abused at home. And while it wasn’t fair they took it out on me, some people are dealt a really bad hand and aren’t equipped with the tools or support to overcome it.

    Also, they committed suicide recently so there’s that.

    • VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      Mine wasn’t. He was celebrated for being an amateur boxing champion now he’s a professional and pops up in the news where he’s talked up as being great.

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        9 months ago

        That’s the American Dream in action. Claw, kill, and rape life till you “succeed” and get celebrated for it because you helped the plantation owner during your journey. That’s the agreement. Favors for favors. There’s nothing here for good honest genuine people.

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          9 months ago

          Not American though. I’m from Northern Ireland and my bully was all Ireland champion at 15 and was even considered for the commonwealth games. Because we’re a small place with a population of something like 8-9 million any time someone becomes successful at anything they’re made a big deal of.

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    9 months ago

    My high school bully stopped bullying me when I fought back. After that, he and I were friendly. Not close friends, but friendly with each other.

    I saw him about five years after high school at a Chinese buffet, and caught up with him a bit.

    A couple years after that, he died in a car crash.

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    9 months ago

    Bold of you to assume I only had one. It was more like the whole class. Sometimes faculty was included.

    There’s nothing in particular I’d say to them, but it’s always amusing seeing their children and the former classmates panicking at the idea that I might tell them about how their mommy and daddy were bullies.

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    9 months ago

    I worked with him on the same construction job for months. I never brought it up and he acted towards me like nothing ever happened. However it’s clear to me that he never changed and is still more or less the same person than he was back then. If anything I only feel sorry for him. It’s not his fault, he can’t help himself.

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      9 months ago

      Yeah, my biggest bully I ended up seeing in college. He pretended like nothing happened. He got drunk and pissed himself and then every time I heard his name it went hand in hand with worrying about him pissing himself when he drank. So…

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    9 months ago

    Funily enough, I did meet him a month or two ago. We just talked about where we are in our lives, was kinda ok. I thought about bringing up the past by an offhand comment at first, but let it go. It was no different than if I’d meet almost anyone from that school.

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      9 months ago

      I’ve seen a few comments in this thread that make me wonder whether bullies actually know they’re bullies. Everyone is the hero in their own story, but they must have known on some level.

  • polarpear11@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    I bumped into my high school abuser a few weeks ago. It’s been 17 years. They didn’t notice me thank god. I still had a small panic attack and had to like, process it. They really fucked me up though. Not a normal bully.

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    9 months ago

    I’m glad you have a lovely family, I’m glad all of you have lovely families… sorry that you are bald and fat, but hey that’s alright. I don’t think I’ll say hi next time, so please don’t either.

    -me being bullied by my dad’s friend’s kids. For a decade. They once broke my arm and hid me so I couldn’t tell their parents.

    I fucking hate them so much.

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    9 months ago

    Wasn’t really bullied in school somehow but if I were would probably just pretend not to recognise them/pretend they don’t exist

    Best way to get revenge imo, be successful and show them how little of an impact they’ve had on your life. Plus it’s super low effort given I barely remember most people outside of my immediate social circle from school anyway

  • Heavybell@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    This happened to me, except it was primary school bully. I asked them if they remembered why, they said they think they thought I was weird, and I nodded while they pumped petrol into my car. Then I paid and left, and I have not seen them since.