• shalafi@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Just commented a couple of times on my kilts being a visible turn off to the women I’ve dated. I’m a small man, not afraid of girl clothes, but that wasn’t hitting with 'em.

    Before you go banging on people for “lesser mindsets” and such, consider this; Attraction is not a choice.

    Let me day that again for those in the back; Attraction is not a choice.

    I think we might be agreeing, but let’s not put people down for their attractions.

    • MotoAsh@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Attraction is not a choice, but if your reaction to cognitive dissonance is to get angry at someone wearing clothing, that is a YOU problem.

      Yes, lots of people have problems with this. That does not make it acceptable. Again, attraction is not a choice, but you do not have to hump their leg.

      I hear those excuses all the time from rapists. “I was attracted!”, “look what she was wearing!” Know what you defend when you say people cannot control their attraction: That’s EXACTLY what a lot of rapists say.

      People SHOULD be able to control their attraction, at least enough to be a civil person. Being a rude piece of shit over clothing is very much ALSO not being a civil person. Things don’t have to get violent for them to still be wrong.