This is really a monumental societal change.

3rd spaces are nearly completely destroyed, and online seems to be the main option for ppl now.

  • Assian_Candor [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    10 days ago

    I think this is actually good in that the online space lets us have access to more options and let folks find partners that are well suited to their idiosyncracies

    What’s bad about it I think is the fact that capitalists are involved extracting value. But essentially we have inserted control and intentionality into a process that previously was more or less random. The wisdom really did used to be, just wait for it, it will happen when you least expect it. Well, not for everyone!

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            9 days ago

            I had three relationships in grade school and currently one online LDR.
            I had another LDR, but she cheated on me, wanted me back after her failed marriage, but I declined.

            My experience was that in high school,
            I could not even have a chat with a girl
            without being thrown accusations or gossip.
            And in college all the young women seemed to be taken.

            That’s still the case in the online world but you can at least chat a bit with them once in a while.