I guess I just disagree with that idea. I feel like it should a shared experience. I definitely thought about making it fun for my friends and family when I got married. I wanted them to celebrate with me, not at me.
I think you are confusing the wedding for the reception. Both are, to some extent, also about the gathering of friends and family, but IMO for the wedding, the guests are there to witness. The reception tilts more towards the guests who are their to celebrate with the couple.
If you are inviting people to them then I see them as one in the same. If you just need witnesses you can bring some when you meet with the priest and not force a hundred people to go to mass for three hours for your own fancy. I think that is selfish.
Seems kind of selfish to expect people to accommodate your desires for their event. You can always just not go. If you really care about the people, talk with them about it. Otherwise stop acting like everyone has to do things the way you prefer.
The wedding is about the couple, not about you.
I guess I just disagree with that idea. I feel like it should a shared experience. I definitely thought about making it fun for my friends and family when I got married. I wanted them to celebrate with me, not at me.
I think you are confusing the wedding for the reception. Both are, to some extent, also about the gathering of friends and family, but IMO for the wedding, the guests are there to witness. The reception tilts more towards the guests who are their to celebrate with the couple.
If you are inviting people to them then I see them as one in the same. If you just need witnesses you can bring some when you meet with the priest and not force a hundred people to go to mass for three hours for your own fancy. I think that is selfish.
Seems kind of selfish to expect people to accommodate your desires for their event. You can always just not go. If you really care about the people, talk with them about it. Otherwise stop acting like everyone has to do things the way you prefer.
Are you helping to pay for the wedding? Helping with setup/teardown? Investing anything other than a few hours of boredom?
You’re there for them, it can be shared, but it’s about them sharing with you, not you all sharing together.