I’m not religious, but I understand that a wedding is very important in some religions. Catholics for example consider it a sacrament. It’s not about their guests, it’s about the couple and if religion is important to them they should be able to have that included. You can just not go if you don’t want to. It’s about supporting them and their journey together. It’s not about the attendees being religious.
It’d be like going to a vegetarians wedding and being upset they didn’t offer meat dishes. It’s their wedding and their views. If there’s any day where they should be able to subject people to them (for lack of a better phrase) it’s their wedding day.
But you can absolutely have a Catholic wedding without mass or communion. I’ve been to plenty of them. Sure, no one is making you go but you’d look like a dick if that was the reason why you didn’t. And sure, it’s their “special day” but obviously they want to share that day with friends and family, otherwise they wouldn’t be having a wedding. To put people through some bullshit like this is just selfish and inconsiderate imo.
If there is no meat at a vegetarian’s wedding there is still food. My brother had no alcohol at his reception but there was still a party. It was still fun to be a part of it. Forcing people to sit through three hours of church if they want to be at your wedding is inconsiderate.
Yeah, my wife is Catholic; we had two options for wedding. The 1 hour ceremony, or the 40 minute ceremony (I think the difference is serving communion). That was it. I don’t think we could have gotten a 3 hour ceremony even if we’d wanted it; they need the church for other things.
As someone who hasn’t gone to mass in forty years, how long is it usually? I imagine a hundred and fifty people taking communion would take a long time just by itself.
I mean where I live it’s around 1 hour. Chrismtas and easter can go up to 1,5hr just because of the added stuff. But yeah even wedding mass is usually around 1 hour. Depends on the person holding it.
I alao juat remembered I have been to a couple catholic and orthodox wedding masses. All were about 1hr long.
Why do you care so much about people you think are dicks thinking you’re a dick? Just don’t go. If you care about their opinion, talk with them. Otherwise it seems you’re not overly fond of them, and they’d probably not miss you.
I’m not religious, but I understand that a wedding is very important in some religions. Catholics for example consider it a sacrament. It’s not about their guests, it’s about the couple and if religion is important to them they should be able to have that included. You can just not go if you don’t want to. It’s about supporting them and their journey together. It’s not about the attendees being religious.
It’d be like going to a vegetarians wedding and being upset they didn’t offer meat dishes. It’s their wedding and their views. If there’s any day where they should be able to subject people to them (for lack of a better phrase) it’s their wedding day.
But you can absolutely have a Catholic wedding without mass or communion. I’ve been to plenty of them. Sure, no one is making you go but you’d look like a dick if that was the reason why you didn’t. And sure, it’s their “special day” but obviously they want to share that day with friends and family, otherwise they wouldn’t be having a wedding. To put people through some bullshit like this is just selfish and inconsiderate imo.
If there is no meat at a vegetarian’s wedding there is still food. My brother had no alcohol at his reception but there was still a party. It was still fun to be a part of it. Forcing people to sit through three hours of church if they want to be at your wedding is inconsiderate.
Well yeah. But even the wedding mass is usually about 1 hour long. Whoever decided for a 3hr one really is inconsiderate.
Yeah, my wife is Catholic; we had two options for wedding. The 1 hour ceremony, or the 40 minute ceremony (I think the difference is serving communion). That was it. I don’t think we could have gotten a 3 hour ceremony even if we’d wanted it; they need the church for other things.
As someone who hasn’t gone to mass in forty years, how long is it usually? I imagine a hundred and fifty people taking communion would take a long time just by itself.
I mean where I live it’s around 1 hour. Chrismtas and easter can go up to 1,5hr just because of the added stuff. But yeah even wedding mass is usually around 1 hour. Depends on the person holding it.
I alao juat remembered I have been to a couple catholic and orthodox wedding masses. All were about 1hr long.
That’s definitely more reasonable, albeit dull for someone nonreligious. Maybe OP was exaggerating or it was just an extreme case.
Forcing non-Catholics to do the ritual is very amusing though.
Stand up, kneel, sit down, stand up, kneel, sit down…
It’s like going to the gym but there’s alcohol.
I mean there is no alcohol.
Lol. Don’t forget the call and response and buff Jesus dead lifting his cross.
Edit: To be clear, not Korean buff Jesus, but normal buff Jesus.
Why do you care so much about people you think are dicks thinking you’re a dick? Just don’t go. If you care about their opinion, talk with them. Otherwise it seems you’re not overly fond of them, and they’d probably not miss you.