I’ve been with a lady for two years and recently started dating her new boyfriend. We all consented to the relationship and so far, it’s going good. I’ve also heard from some people though who used to date many people that it didn’t work out so they decided to date monogamously.
For sure! I think in a lot of ways, my first partner and I got lucky on the compatibility front. We’ve just always vibed super well, and usually come to the same conclusions about stuff, even if it’s by different means. I think we were also both pretty inclined towards multiple relationships, even though we didn’t really realize it until we’d been together for a long time.
Communication is definitely key, though. There are a lot of things that are kinda implicit in a monogamous relationship that you need to talk about more explicitly when it’s open. I think we’re also lucky in that we’re both friends with each other’s partners.
Honestly, the biggest hurdle was at first was insecurity, both about the relationship and myself (and herself as well). Getting over the idea that your partner may ditch you for another person they have NRE with is hard, despite assurances. Obviously, that never happened. These days, I’m so far from that version of myself these days that it’s kinda funny to look back on, at least.