• gift_of_gab@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    First time I get that remark…

    Funny enough, growing up I got tired of hearing women complain …

    I believe this is when the kids say ‘lol.’

    The dude is actively offering to pleasure the girl

    No, he’s offering to do what he wants to do. It’s not universal that women want that; it’s not universal that women want anyone to do that; it’s not universal that women want that specific person to do that. This is how we got rape in Revenge of the Nerds because a bunch of guys went “yeah but she liked it, right?”

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      3 hours ago

      No, he’s offering to do what he wants to do.

      Reasserting this. I have a vulva and HATE receiving oral. I am up front about this - it is not taking time to pleasure me, it does not feel good to me. I have still had men whine, or start doing it anyway, or bitch about it.

      Offering an unwanted sex act is not a kindness. Anyone who thinks that it is does not have the understanding of consent or human sexuality that is necessary to participate in sex.