Little Black Sandals - Sia
Boundaries. To me, the little black sandals represent boundaries or the abillity to recognize and extricate yourself from whatever you consciously+unconsciously feel is dangerous and unsafe for you
The line where he says he’ll let go only if only she explicitly asks it is the exact opposite of how it should be, where the default is no and inviting people to opt-in to that which may be triggering.
I like that tea analogy where boundaries is as simple as whether or not you’d like a cup of tea. Invite and have consent before you use it up for someone who doesn’t want or cannot accept it
Whip It by Devo, it teaches perseverance in the face of your obstacles.
Along with some great guidance on the handling of cream.
Don’t go chasing waterfalls
Cha Cha Slide
Without this song, American white people would be utterly clueless about how to dance.
I Can’t Drive 55, Sammy Hagar. Hurry the hell up people, I’ve got places to be.
Pity the Dead by Bad Religion?
That was in poor taste, so I’ll try again - Tell her about it by Billy Joel. Males tend to live too much in their head…
Tequila
I’ve heard people say this about “Here Comes A Thought” from Steven Universe.
Personally? “Let It Happen” by Tame Impala. The lesson being, just fuckin’ go for it. Don’t fall for the toolbox fallacy: oh I need X and Y and Z before I even begin trying to [blank]. Unless [blank] is practicing medicine or juggling chainsaws, no, you’re probably okay to start doing whatever. Failure is a prerequisite to most things. You have to suck at something before you can be good at it. The right time to plant a tree is ten years ago.
The Barenaked Ladies’ “Next Time” is the same idea, but expressed with typical dry and bitter comedy. Tame Impala’s take is more likely to get your ass out of your seat - literally and figuratively.
My name. Smother Love by Crass. Your lover is not an object to possess.
Safety Dance by Men Without Hats feels a bit like low-hanging fruit, but I think it fits quite well. Whether it is dancing or really any sort of expression, you ought to do it if you desire to regardless of how others may feel. And if your friends constantly constrain themselves based on the judgements (or fear of judgement) of others, that isn’t going make them new friends either. I wish I danced more when I was a kid. But I dance now.
